Welcome to the AFF Newsletter on Substack.
I received a message yesterday from a follower on Twitter asking me how they could break their addiction to porn.
Despite it not being my area of expertise, it is a subject I’ve tackled in the past, so I was more than happy to help.
I don’t think there’s too much of a leap from alcohol to porn, in fact, I’ve always said that alcohol is the root of degeneration and degradation - meaning that once you have alcohol in your system you’re more likely to use drugs or porn.
I’ve had people that I respect state that porn is more likely to lead people to drink. I disagree.
I believe that alcohol is one of the main reasons people cheat on their spouses, try hard drugs, watch porn, visit prostitutes or get themselves into trouble.
We can argue that a person’s mindset is to blame and that alcohol just makes it is easier for them to facilitate their desired actions. This could well be the case.
It’s a subject well worth looking in to further at a later date.
Back to porn. This doesn’t mean that people watch porn when drunk, and now with it being so easy to view, people don’t need to have alcohol in their system to view it for the first time.
My point is, consuming alcohol can lead you on a slippery slope if you’re not careful.
But this isn’t a debate on whether watching pornography is good or bad, as it is irrelevant to this issue.
The fact is, porn has made this person’s life unmanageable and they were reaching out for help.
Much like an alcohol addict, the person was close to the edge after struggling with their addiction for so long.
I was able to recommend a course by MasculineTheory aka Joseph.
This isn’t a plug for the course but it is a very good tool for anyone reading this that finds themselves struggling with porn addiction. Here’s the link if you want to check it out:
What I wanted to highlight in this short email is the importance of reaching out for help when you’re struggling.
Although that person knew my content was geared towards alcohol addiction recovery, they were desperate for some help and knew that I would be willing to do so if I could.
By opening up and sharing your struggles, you are more likely to find someone that has been through what you are going through or someone that will be able to help you find someone who has.
In the AFF Community, the dads in the group are able to safely share their struggles without judgement and in turn, the community does its best to help them.
The hardest part for anyone struggling with addiction is taking that initial step but if you can get over that fear of admitting to someone that you have a problem, then you’re on the path to recovery.
Take care and have a great day,